Any time I openly set boundaries about certain types of reader email or
“You asked for this [people wasting your time and being trolling assholes] by writing books. Quit complaining. You make money from this. So maybe you should STFU, stop answering questions [if you get too many emails that cross boundaries], and concentrate on writing more books. Work on yourself.”
This response makes so many assumptions and when I think about the times I’ve set boundaries, or voiced a complaint over the years, this response has some interesting connotation.
- It makes the assumption that because I have a Youtube Channel and write books, that I should expect and endure people making shitty comments about my looks or personal life. Reality: While I do expect trolls as that’s the nature of the internet, I
‘m not going tolet bad behavior go unaddressed. I will say something. I am doing a disservice to women everywhere if I silently endure such public abuse – as that’s akin to saying: “It’s okay. Keep doing it.”
- It makes the assumption that I should never feel irritated when people fill my email with questions that can
b e answeredby reading my books. Reality: I will openly tell others what irritates me whether one person likes it or not. If I don’t share what’s annoying, how will others know that I find it annoying? Communication like this is important and shows emotional intelligence. Even if it unintentionally hurts someone’s feelings.
- It makes the assumption that I should be silent and endure whatever anyone throws at me. As if making a living writing somehow gives the
generalpublic ownership of me. Reality: No one owns me. If you don’t like that, don’t buy my books. I never starting writing books about Daemonolatry to make money, the Daemonolatry books are not the bulk of my writing income —so….
- It insists that I should never set boundaries with people, ever. After all – they own me now and if I didn’t want to
be owned, I should have never written anything, or made money off it. Reality: Wrong again.
- It says that if I
dohave a complaint or if I doset a boundary with anyone —I am unenlightened and need to work on myself. Nevermind the fact that the reason I do openly share my complaints and set boundaries is due to the fact thatI doknow myself —and I know what I will and will not tolerate. Reality: I’m not turning the other cheek. I’m not a Christian.
Basically, the gist of that typical troll response is always the equivalent of “Shut up, endure it, and write, you unenlightened bitch.”
Well, I’m not going to shut up and sit down and let strangers treat me however they wish, and I would hope no one reading this would allow strangers to do that to them either. (BTW — this is some of the most sexist shit, and for the women reading this — don’t ever let a man tell you to shut up and sit down. Because it’s always men who make these shitty comments and I often wonder if they’d say the same thing to a male occult author. I doubt it.)
Humans are flawed, emotional, social creatures. It is in our nature to react to our environment and those around us. Sometimes that reaction is to open our mouths and tell others about what we will or will not put up with, much to the chagrin of those who want us to keep our opinions to ourselves and remain “compliant” because it’s more comfortable for THEM.
People who practice any type of LHP philosophy and think this purging of emotion and reaction is the goal for every magician would be wrong.
It means it’s up to each person to put his/her foot down and draw a line in the sand when necessary. Yes – sometimes when you are honest with how you feel
There is no shame in having a good rant now and again. There’s no shame in being annoyed by certain things in your email, or angry about how you were treated. There’s no shame in making mistakes. There is nothing spiritually inferior about the person who tells a troll to fuck off. Go ahead
I am often curious when humans decided that spiritual enlightenment meant denying one’s own nature, being emotionless, being perfect, and accepting abuse from others. Probably Christianity with that “turn the other cheek” business. Which is funny because I thought spiritual enlightenment was about knowing yourself