I get so many emails addressed to S. Connolly, my assistant and I thought we’d answer the most common questions here so we’d have a page we could direct people to.
Will you mentor/teach me? Unfortunately, I don’t have the time required to be a mentor, and even less time required to take on an actual apprentice. For aspiring occult authors, I have turned my best blog posts on the subject into a book called “The Indie Esoteric: A Publishing Guide for the Independent Occult Author” (releasing April 2017). If you’re looking for creative magick advice, see the forthcoming Daemonic Magick for Creatives. Your best option to learn magick from me is to read my books, the blog, or take a class from me.
Will you join and participate in my FB group or forum? Again, it’s a time issue. You can add me to your FB group, but if it doesn’t look interesting I’ll likely dump it. I just don’t have the time to hang out online and discuss Daemonolatry to death. I used to, but at some point, it became a barrage of the same questions over and over again. Questions I’ve answered or addressed in my books. I think my biggest issue is that after 30+ years of practicing, it takes an interesting conversation to hold me and get me to participate. I have been burnt out on discussing beginner topics for about ten years now. It’s very rare that I find an online conversation, in an open forum, that interests me. Usually, it’s like, “I saw a Daemon that looked like XXX, who is it?” Or, “I have found myself interested in working with XXX. Any advice?” Or such vague, sweeping questions, that answering them would require me to retype my books in a message thread. Hence the reason I often answer questions like that with, “That was covered in my book XXX.”
One of the most common questions I get is “What order should I read your books in?” Here’s the answer Frank, my assistant, usually sends to folks:
These are the foundational beginner books to be read in this order:
1. The Complete Book of Demonolatry
2. Daemonolater’s Guide to Daemonic Magick
Next you would move into specific areas based on interest. If the first two books are the 101, the following are still beginner, but address more specific topics. Let’s call them 201. There is no specific order for these unless stated:
- Honoring Death – Necromancy
- a. Necromantic Sacraments – read this after Honoring Death
- Daemonolatry Goetia – Goetia
- Drawing Down Belial – Daemonic Communication & Divination
- Sigillum Diaboli – Divination via Daemonic sigils
- Demonolatry Rites
- Abyssal Communion & Rite of Imbibement
- Modification & Practice Series – Scales of Ma’at, Hidden: Living with the Uninitiated, Modified Daemonolatry. (You can get FREE pdf’s of these books on demonolatry.org)
- Wortcunning for Daemonolatry – Daemonic Herbalism & Alchemy
- Any of the Daemonolater’s Guide Series including:
- Sex, Money & Power
- Daemonic Pacts
- Daemonic Offerings
- Daemonolatry Groups
- Daemonic Possession
- Spirit Keeping & Spirit Vessels
- Daemonic Prayer & Prayer Cords
- Daemonic Love Magick
- Book of Agares
- Lake of Fire: A Daemonolater’s Guide to Ascension
- Daemonic Magick for Creatives (forthcoming with a different title)
- Daemonic Prosperity Magick
- The Preeminent Curse (forthcoming, must be on my mailing list)
Then you have a 301 book – Kasdeya Rite of Ba’al, and this should only be read and used if you’re an experienced magician and you’re ready for a major life change.
Finally – you have your advanced books. Let’s call these 401. Readers shouldn’t even delve into these books unless they’ve been practicing a few years. These books include (and should probably be read in this order):
1. Infernal Colopatiron or The Abyssal Angels – theophany and gate opening
2. Nuctemeron Gates – gate opening
3. Keys of Ocat — Keys of Death is a companion text to this and is used in conjunction with Keys of Ocat. – Necromancy.
Finally, you have two books that are occult-based, but stand alone and aren’t Daemonolatry specific. These can be read at any time and are suitable for beginners of ANY path.
–Curses, Hexes & Crossing – execration magick
–The Art of Creative Magick – creating your own ritual
I also have a book of Daemonolatry related essays, articles, and “best-of” blog posts as well as a book of my essays found in several anthologies, some out of print-
–Bound by Blood
–Daemonolatry Monograph I (Must be on my mailing list)
How do I get started working with Daemons?
I wrote a post over on demonolatry.org about this. You can read it HERE. It’s about establishing a daily practice.
I want to learn to develop my gifts for communicating with Daemons like you are able to do. How can I do that? or I have been working on learning Daemonic communication for XXX time now, and nothing is working.
Well, you have to understand that I was born with the gift to be able to communicate with spirits. I also believe everyone has some degree of clairsentient ability. But I can’t really tell you how you can develop an ability you may not have. I can tell you how to hone your existing talents – and that’s by using them. A LOT. I work with Daemons daily. My skills are fine tuned. It took me years to gain control of my natural talent “at-will”. I wrote Drawing Down Belial to help people learn and hone communication and divination techniques with the Daemonic. SO – practice, practice, practice. But if, after a year of consistent effort (by that I mean 365 straight days of 1 hour a day) you’re still not getting results – you’re likely a squib in that department. 🙁 I hate telling people that, but sometimes it’s true.
Why don’t you answer all of your email? Why do you give short, terse answers or tell me to read XX book? I was hoping for more in-depth answers and/or discussion.
In many cases, I’ve answered the question(s) you’ve asked already in one of my books. I wish I had more time to have a full conversation with everyone who writes to me, but sadly there isn’t enough time in my day.
Why have you refused to do magickal work for me?
I do a great deal of magick for others, but usually I know them from the groups and orders I serve in. When I do it for strangers, it really depends on the situation. Yes, I do charge for my time and supplies when I work for strangers because my time is limited as it is. I will do free work IF the Daemonic insists. I spent years doing free workings and readings for other people, but as life got busier and my career as a novelist took off, I had to make a decision about what I realistically had time to keep doing, and whether or not I should do it for free. That was not an easy decision. I learned over the years that if you give away something for free, people will flock out of the woodwork and take as much of your time as you’re willing to give them and then demand more. If you refuse – they will stomp away – ungrateful. I also learned that those with just a mild interest in the occult will happily take free classes and not take them seriously, wasting everyone’s time. I would literally have to quit my jobs and spend my life in service to others. This is not realistic since it requires money to live and I have no one I can live off of. Nope – I don’t live off my husband, my parents, friends, or other family members. I am self-sufficient, independent, perfectly capable and healthy, so I am not on disability or any type of public assistance. I work for a living just like everyone else. Oftentimes when I refuse magickal work for others it’s because my life just has too many to-do’s already, and I don’t have the time to make a life of doing free work for others. Other times it’s because I think its best that people learn to help themselves. I still take on the occassional magickal work for friends and acquaintances free of charge. I volunteer a great deal of time to the temples and orders that I serve in. So when I do, on rare occasion, do magickal work for the general public – there are fees involved.
If you’re a high priestess, isn’t it your job to help me for free? Or – I have found others who will help me, magickally for free, why can’t you?
If you are an initiated member of one of the covens, groups, or orders I belong to, yes. Then it is my duty to serve you because I’ve taken an oath of service to the members of said groups. My higher calling is my oath of service to the Daemonic Divine, and if they tell me to help someone, I will drop everything to do so. Unfortunately, and unlike Christian churches, the traditional Daemonolatry clergy doesn’t have a large, wealthy organization backing them and giving them stipends or salaries. Which means our priesthood often does have to charge or ask for donations to do work for the general public. When we can – we do try to offer free public services through our temples or groups including sacred ceremonies and liturgical rites. We may also serve in our free time IF we are able. Some priests have dedicated all of their free time to do work for others without charge. Unfortunately, I am unable to do that because my paying work keeps me busy, as does my own coven/temple work, plus I have a family to care for. I also have to have time to do my own spiritual work and study. I am not a general priest. I am very specialized. My actual title is Hekau Lector Priest, which means essentially that I teach magick. I accomplish this via classes (some I charge for, others I don’t), and through the books I write. If you have found fellow Daemonolaters who are willing to help members of the general public for free, chances are they have someone else supporting them, or they’re retired, or their entire social life centers around the online occulture and they have a great deal of free time. That is not my situation though. Definitely work with those people if you think they can help you.
There are TWO things I do for free for ANYONE who comes to me and asks. You’re welcome to CONTACT ME if you think either of these things will help you:
- Thursday Night Healing Light Meditation – You can add yourself, friends, or family members to the list of people I will include in my regular Thursday healing light meditations.
- Prayers – I am ALWAYS willing to send prayers to the Daemonic Divine on your behalf. Please note that this is NOT MAGICK. I will not pray for you to “get stuff”. I will pray on behalf of others for Divine intervention, understanding, healing, personal gnosis, and those types of things.
All of that said — there may come a time in the future where I do have more time and I may open myself up to do more workings for the general public for a suggested donation. But that time is not now.
I am in need of an exorcism! Will you please help me?
Obviously, I don’t believe in the classical, Christian version of “Daemonic Possession”. I believe that if you’re being possessed by Daemons – they’ve got serious shit to do and they need your body to do it. Many Daemonolaters are willing to be host bodies for such things, meaning Daemons don’t possess people willy-nilly. But I do believe that in rare situations, sometimes feeder spirits (or negative “others”) will attach to someone or someplace and it does require banishing or exorcism. These can be done remotely, though admittedly in person is best. For exorcisms, a full work-up would have to be done, including a report from a licensed psychiatrist or psychologist saying that the possessed person has sought professional assistance and that the person does not suffer from a histrionic disorder, bipolar, schizophrenia, or any other psychological disorder that could produce similar symptoms. Depending on symptoms, I may ask the person to have tests done with a regular doctor to rule out epilepsy, vitamin deficiencies, cancer, or hormone imbalances. Decades of working with Daemons and the paranormal/supernatural has taught me that it is imperative to have as much information as possible before proceeding with an exorcism because it is extremely unhealthy (and sometimes dangerous) to pander to delusions, fantasies, or attention-seeking behaviors of mentally ill individuals. It would also be extremely dangerous to ignore a possible physiological condition that could be causing the symptoms. I have encountered several situations where the “possessed” had symptoms caused by a dangerous vitamin deficiency (in one case due to an eating disorder), and in another case – it was a brain tumor. I’ve also encountered several instances where “possession” symptoms were induced by alcoholism, blood sugar issues, and hormone imbalances. It would be negligent for ANY Daemonolater, especially a priest to perform an exorcism when a person actually needs medical intervention. Once I am satisfied the person is mentally and physically fine, I would do an interview with the possessed to see if what they’re really suffering from is stress, depression, anxiety or other major life change emotional stressors – as violent outbursts and moments of rage can be triggered by such things. What people often need here are coping devices to learn how to deal with the life change, and in some instances, it is best to refer them to professional counselors. If all of this checks out — divinations would commence so I could see what I was dealing with. If divination confirms that an exorcism would be of benefit, the possessed (or someone acting on that person’s behalf) would need to sign an NDA as well as a release of liability. Once all of this is done, I can perform an exorcism. The traditional Daemonolatry clergy has a system for these things. Our priests are trained in how to handle these types of situations in a way that doesn’t feed mental disorders, physiological disorders, or cause spiritual harm to a person. We never outright refuse to help, but we don’t just do exorcisms willy-nilly either. I’ve discovered most people are unwilling to undergo the first two things on the list. Real spiritual possession is not a game to me. I take it very seriously because even if it isn’t an actual spirit — the possessed person NEEDS help of some type.