I wrote this post back in December and seriously debated posting it. However, I think it’s time.
There’s been a lot of talk recently, via various magicians, about success. The main gist of it being, it’s great to declare how powerful a magus you are or how “emotionally rich” you are, but if you can’t manifest good relationships, wealth and/or good health, how good a magician are you?
I think these are very valid questions.
There’s also a valid reason I didn’t end up married to someone who was also a magician. Mostly because I learned most male magicians (in my general vicinity) didn’t have their shit together. I’m really big about the people I surround myself with having their shit together. Mostly because I have my shit together.
A few years back, a reader told me that as an author of books about magick, I should disclose all details about my life to prove to my readers that magick actually manifests for me. Critics have assumed that I’m some down-trodden girl jumping from relationship to relationship, working at McDonalds for $8.00 per hour and living in a roach-infested apartment somewhere, estranged from my family. Sour grapes anyone?
Growing up I was taught never to brag. I was taught that humility was very important. So while I’m certainly not going to let everyone into my personal life/finances without any discretion (as that would be both dangerous and stupid) I do want to clarify a few points.
1. I really do believe that if you are a magus and you aren’t successful to some degree, you’re not doing it right.
2. No, I don’t believe everyone aspires to be wealthy (which is why so many success spells fail), but that’s because our society teaches that wealth can be measured in relationships or contentment. That’s how we keep those who live paycheck to paycheck from feeling crappy about their lives. Yes, while I agree that happiness trumps money each and every time, if you’ve never had to worry about money, you’ll understand why I, personally, would much rather be wealthy. Having money makes it a lot easier to be happy more of the time. It’s nice to not have to worry about money. (I know this from experience.)
Now to the part of this post that makes me feel egotistical. Addressing the critics. This is mainly for the critics who poo-poo my way of working. My way of working may be different from more traditional methods, but the results speak for themselves.
Listing what I have that so many self-proclaimed grand and powerful magi who criticize me and my work usually don’t have in their own lives:
1. I am happily married and we’ve been together since 1999. I don’t have relationship problems. That’s not to say we don’t argue on occasion, but for the most part, we don’t.
2. I have stable and mutually beneficial friendships and a life that is relatively drama free. Again, not to say my life never has drama, but it mostly doesn’t.
3. I have strong, stable family relationships.
4. I have worked in accounting for many years, and in that particular career, I make a salary at the top end of my field.
5. However, since I am a writer (and a rather successful one at that), I do generally make relatively good money each year.
6. My husband was able to take a sabbatical from work to go back to school because I make enough to pay the bills (including a mortgage) with what I make. When both of us are working, we often find ourselves in that upper 10% everyone hates so much. Sorry haters.
7. These days I can accomplish my income only working part-time in an office. Which means my time is pretty much my own and I’ve been doing the accounting thing long enough that I don’t have to punch a clock.
8. My husband and I own our home. It’s not fancy or grand, but it is over 2,000 square feet in a nice suburb. I wouldn’t want anything bigger because I don’t like domestic chores. I’d have to hire a maid and I’m too untrusting for that.
9. I am rather healthy. I do have a few extra pounds right now (job hazard), but I am actively succeeding in trimming down.
10. I do have retirement accounts and stock portfolios in preparation for my golden years and I contribute to them regularly. With any luck, they’ll be fat and sassy by the time I’m ready to retire. I am also secure in knowing that our cremations are already paid for, we have sufficient life insurance, and we have a healthy savings account that will help us get by up to 2 years if anything bad were to happen. So we are relatively secure, and working toward additional security that will hopefully outlast us.
Yes, I attribute my success to my magickal work with the Daemonic (Divine Intelligence) and my Divine Self.
Now, this doesn’t mean my life is perfect. It has its own challenges. I still have to deal with unexpected bills, or nasty colds, or the occasional drama. That’s life. I can confirm that having enough financially (and having some financial security for the future) makes it so much easier to weather challenges.
Finally – I do lead the kind of life many aspire to, and perhaps it’s time I stop being humble about it.
So there – I’ve publicly put my money where my mouth is. I wonder how many others could do the same.