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Mail File: Naughty Bits

Here’s more mail from Anne O’Connell fans, which means it’s time to talk kink and bdsm. Yeah – you heard me. While it’s easier in a lot of ways to keep my blog + site for all four pen-names together, it does mean this blog can’t be all about erotica, or all about writing, or all about the occult. It kind of has to be all three. It’s the price I pay for streamlining.

Now onto the questions!

Why don’t you blog about your personal experiences with bdsm? A lot of other bdsm authors do.

I promised DH years ago that I would keep our private business off the web. This after getting myself in trouble for discussing personal stuff online that was seen by someone who wasn’t meant to see it.  Not only that but I’m not really anonymous like a lot of bdsm erotica authors are.  Why? Because I’m too lazy to run more than one website and blog. It’s just too much of a hassle.

Are you on Fetlife? Will you friend me over there?

I am on Fetlife, but again, I am anonymous over there and I’m not over here. Very few people on Fetlife know I’m Anne O’Connell and I like it that way. Hell – no one there knows my real name. Technically very few people here know my real name. So there you go. And the only way I’ll friend you over on Fetlife is if we talk in email first. You should know that I am monogomous and I don’t do online chat role-play or any of that. So please don’t ask. I’m not on Fetlife to find partners. I’m there for information and for chatting with friends.

Are you a Domme?

It’s funny that so many people assume I’m a Domme.  No.

Whips, canes, paddles, or belts?

You forgot crops. 🙂  All of the above. Next.

When is Switched coming out?

February 2012 tentatively. But please remember that stories take time to percolate.  I’ve already begun writing. There should be an excerpt ready for you all before the year is out.

Can I get signed copies of Training Amy?

Yes. I still need to add it in the store’s signed copies order. I will also send out FREE signed bookplates to anyone who writes me with their mailing address and a request for one.  You can also get signed copies of Surrender: Tales of Submission.

Are you a cutter like Amy?

No. But a very dear friend of mine, who partly inspired the character of Amy, was.  So I have seen, first hand, how a loving D/s relationship with a skilled Dom, can help a sub who has needs that go deeper than most.  

What are your favorite scenes to write?

Anything to do with spankings and clamps. I’m a bit of a masochist if you couldn’t tell.

Do you get turned on while you’re writing?

Yes. If it doesn’t turn me on then how could I expect it to turn on the reader? My stories are meant to get readers hot and give them ideas. Then hopefully they’ll grab their partner and/or their favorite toy and play out a fantasy. 

Do you think it’s important that your stories are serious?

I’m not going to lie to you and try to pretend I’m writing serious literature here. I write bdsm fantasies and fictional novels. It’s entertainment. My novellas are not dissertations, biographies,  or  serious social or sexual commentaries.  However, I do try to make my characters come alive for the reader and I do try to treat the subject matter with some seriousness. 

I noticed the issue of abuse comes up in Training Amy. Why did you choose to bring that up?

The reason abuse comes up in Training Amy is because a lot of vanilla folks mistake bdsm with abuse and if Amy’s story can teach a vanilla person anything, it’s that bdsm is consensual. Abuse is not. Yes – I know Eric takes liberties sticking Amy in the cage, but the rest of the time she has a safe-word. Besides, she could have refused to get in the cage to begin with, ran to the nearest phone and called the police. But that’s not what she did.  ::shrug::

That’s it! I don’t have anymore questions. I know it seems abrupt to end on that question, but… Thanks to everyone who sent in questions! I look forward to more mail and the next installment of the mail file!

Steph is an award winning and bestselling author of thrilling steamy and paranormal romances, dark urban fantasy, occult horror-thrillers, cozy mysteries, contemporary romance, sword and sorcery fantasy, and books about the esoteric and Daemonolatry. A Daemonolatress and forever a resident of Smelt Isle, she is happily married and cat-mom to three pampered house cats. Her muse is a demanding sadistic Dom who often keeps her up into the wee hours of the morning. You can contact her at

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