On one of the forums I frequent I often post to a board for BBW (big, beautiful women). Now I’m not super large, but I’m no longer a skinny little thing either. I’m about 55 pounds overweight. And yes, it’s causing me some health issues the older I get, so I am actively trying to lose weight even though my two full time jobs are quite sedentary. Mind you I’ll also be turning 39 this year and me and my metabolism aren’t getting any younger, so it’s been a bit of a struggle.
So along come a few teen-aged and twenty-something skinny girls, who seem to feel they need to tell all of us on the board that not only are we are significantly overweight, but that we *shouldn’t* be overweight at all. Then they act as if it’s as easy as pie to lose 50 pounds and we’re just lazy. Well that’s great to say when you’ve never had a weight problem. During my teens and twenties I was a tiny little thing, too. Sure – I’ve always been quite voluptuous (hourglass shaped), but I was always healthy. I didn’t start gaining my weight until I was around 33-years-old. That extra 55 pounds didn’t hit me overnight either. It crept up on me slowly.
It seems none of these tiny little things (the ones posting the snark) understand things like BMI, bone structure, or metabolism vs. age. But I have news for them. Many of them *will* eventually learn what it means to struggle with their weight. Most women go through that struggle at some point in their lives, even if they were skinny in their younger years. As cruel as it sounds, I find a lot of satisfaction in knowing this. I sometimes wish I could be a fly on the wall when all these girls making the inconsiderate and thoughtless comments about bigger women find themselves 20-50 pounds larger 10-20 years from now.
I’m here to tell those ladies – I was tiny, too. I used to be able to eat whatever I wanted and not gain a single pound. But it eventually catches up to you. You can’t eat fast food or processed food every other meal for years and years and never expect to gain an ounce (no matter how active you are). Especially if a woman considers herself “curvy” now (which is why these young girls are hanging out on the BBW board to begin with). Perhaps instead of being snotty toward the bigger women, they should be kind and supportive – lest they find themselves in the same position and have a bunch of young skinny girls harping on their weight later on down the road.